Look at it as it is. One side is saying others should have the same religious beliefs as do they and is trying to order others to live their lives a certain way. That's totalitarian, you're right.

The other side is simply saying I want to live my life my way, I want my body to be my own. I want freedom. They add that they will grant the same right to the people trying to dictate to them Those people have the same freedom to live their lives as they choose.

It's very simple. People trying to shove their religion down the throats of others. People who do not live up to the tenets of their religion, who do not follow the teachings themselves, trying to force others.

And other people trying to be free from those tyrants.