Regards to Mme. R.
A Lady of discernment, by all accounts.
Here's the thing about Elves verses Men: Elves are part of Middle Earth*, Men, in a way, are not. Tolkien describes Elves as bound to the earth, while men have a different fate outside it. But that Fate is a mystery, that even the Valar (Tolkien's angels, who sang the world into being) do not understand.
(*Arda, actually, of which Middle Earth is just the middle bit. Fox would have called me on that distinction, hence the footnote.)