Bullies, drunks, rapists come from a variety of school subcultures. As someone who was bullied in high school I can tell you I got that much more from slackers and stoners than I did from jocks. For the short time I participated in high school athletics I would say the vast majority of my teammates treated their girlfriends, and their friends' girlfriends, respectfully. There are exceptions of course and there are always assholes anywhere in life. There was a "nerd" in my class who always had his head in the books in school who raped a young girl.

Firemen are predominantly male. Are they toxic and dangerous? NASA scientists are predominantly male. Chess clubs are predominantly male. Your generalizations are obviously a far overreach.

And of course sports don't really matter. As I pointed out to ER, neither do movies, TV shows, music, art, dance, mountain climbing, sailing, parties, or anything else that makes life enjoyable or fun for people. I can't speak to whatever happened in your life that embittered you to sports and athletes, but you should take it with a grain of salt and perspective.