Oh, eb, you've reduced me to writing a serious post to you. Don't tell Publius.

The key to your brief post is "for many years". As one matures quite often they start to realize that the old saw "There are two sides to every story" really does mean something. That's almost a definition of "maturity", certainly a part of it.

And then "When everyone is wrong, no one is right" makes a bit more sense. (And "When everyone is right, no one is wrong".)

When we get tired of wondering who is more wrong, and in many things there are degrees, and in some not, we can look at some matters as "situations".

Some situations are tragic, absolutely tragic. And we can realize someone was absolutely wrong. A lot of these involve children, for instance.

And, in the more complex situations, where everyone is wrong and everyone is right, taking sides is childish.

This board has commented on Palestinian wrongs, and their correct grievances. It has commented, briefly, on Israeli wrongs, and their proper grievances.

For "outsiders", it is childish and destructive to choose sides in a matter like that. It is easier and leaves one with a feeling of superiority and self-righteousness, I'll admit. And not realistic, doesn't help with resolution.
(If you are "on" one side, it's a duty to act for that side, maybe even while recognizing there are the two sides.)

After all, choosing sides and ignoring the grievances of one side or the other got everyone here. (Tell me we didn't ignore the Palestinians until they started raising effective hell.) Expecting the other guy to accept that "might makes right" creates lasting enemys, and only works for a little while. Right seems to make right.

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