Indeed. The discussion is about defeating the "insurgency".
About killing key members of our opposition and bringing it to its knees. About repeated declarations of imminent victory. About your sarcasm towards people who doubt said declarations. About your feelings of discomfort towards being reminded.
And about your pretense that the discussion has something to do with bringing democracy to Iraq.
That's the problem.
I'll check back in 6 months so you can inform me about any democratic progress at that time, and we can have this silly discussion again.