Life is a complete crapshoot with the various outcomes not based on merit, good works, justice, fairness or any other standard connected with "deserving".

The vagaries of existence are infinite, unending and almost random. The only answer to "Why?" is "Why not?"

I've seen what I consider to be unfairness and injustice too many times to continue to demand of an uncaring universe answers which will be understandable to my mind. If there are any, they are incomprehensible to someone who wants to believe in fair or unfair, right or wrong.

If the ocean is considered uncaring, the universe is infinitely more so. It just is, one second at a time.

I'm very sorry for your friend and her family. I hope someday, some way, somehow they can find something positive in their experiences. It's nothing personal.