I have no problem with people who prefer the same sex to the opposite sex. But for someone to voluntarily accept the subservient passive role, in effect, submitting to domination, I find profoundly disturbing. I certainly don't expect my wife to fill that submissive role with me, in fact, I don't think I could have married her if she had insisted on it. To deliberately choose a loss of dignity is too high a price to pay for love, and I doubt I could love an adult willing to pay that price.

Now it is true, in every close and loving relationship, either family or friendship, there is a dominant partner in those areas where their authority overlaps. Ultimate authority rests with one or the other, especially if circumstances force financial responsibility on one of them. But even that is not absolute, or insisted on in every situation, or even at all times in life. The exercising of that authority should be avoided by both partners, and reserved only for irreconcilable differences in circumstances where compromise or negotiation is not possible. It is not to be taken lightly. For the dominant partner, it is an awesome responsibility, one not to be abused.

As Bob Dylan put it, "I want to be your lover, baby, I don't want to be your boss."