There is no excuse for domestic violence. Period.

Now that we have established that, a serious episode of domestic violence is preceded by minor episodes. And there are no innocent victims. Both people involved have been in a dangerous dance for a long time before it erupts into a major incident.

Now, one party knows it is coming. Usually looks forward to it as a demonstration that they still matter.

If a second incidence of violence occurs, it is the fault of the "victim". If they don't get the hell out, knowing what is going to happen, they are equally the problem.

Even a dog will bare it's teeth, then growl before it bites. If someone insists on petting it and gets bitten they bear some of the responsibility.

And if they do it again, they bear a lot more of the responsibility.

"Should" the dog bit them. Hell, no! And if you know it will, and you come around the second time, I don't think you can yell "Victim".