Sorry about your dad.
I had mine until I was 35.
Male traits are passed down from father to son, brother to brother and simple social interaction. My father was a sensitive but he acted the part of alpha when he needed to. I got both his traits but ended up more on the side of sensitivity.
When you think about it, problems with bullying were resolved after school behind the back stop. You didn't run for counseling, kill yourself, or bring a gun to school. You dealt with it or lived with it.
There are many more examples when it comes to lack of role models.