Don't you see?
It is all about how to relate.
I have been here a year...and I find the men here to be informative, helpful and considerate towards me. {You are not alone in this...several people on the Zone have yet to learn this.} It is not rocket science I speak of!!!!...[or else I would be S.O.L. believe you me!]
It is HOW you ask, say, and respond that is key.
Jeez.
