" I just tend to get very, very angry all over again"
I didn't mean to disturb old dogs; just prefer to let them lie...:~)
However, you have processed it into Wisdom and Perspective; and that's what you share with us. There is a world unseen out there that lies just beyond that realm, and some end up there for brief moments of time and it can be life-changing.
I hope YOU are starting your memoirs and pulling as many punches as you can. There are so many who can learn from you.