"the solutions to this matter is not hate but understanding "
That's the key to any issue about life, or about anything that is important to us.
Talks, negotiation, compromise, etc...without the black or white thinking.
Remove the emotional triggers and have everyone calm down first.
In our hectic society, and with TV shows that instigate emotion like Survivor or even such trash as the Jerry Springer show...the MEDIA is what spurs us into a frenzy and encourages our passions.