"In some ways you're right, but I've still seen enough conflicting information to make me think this stinks somewhere."

I agree that there seems to be a lot conflicting information. But one should also consider the Mother-inlaw factor of this equation:).

Throw in the lawyers into this, and a issue which fundementally controversial (in about lots different axis: individual rights, life choices, state authority, torture, marriage, Federal vs State, medical costs, new laws and new medical technogy, authority of judges, family relations [nuclear vs extended family], conflict of interest due to money, in a state of a hotly contested in national elections, etc.). So this has got a ton of political spin connected to it, in addition instead of a Air War of MSM type spin, this seems more of a grassroot spin. In this mess even if the husband made mistakes they could have been due mostly to political pressure or other considerations, such as youth and practically newly wed and what seems like a fair amount entangement with his inlaws.