re: Both - And? Right diagnosis, wrong etiology.
that read like an insightful analysis but you still could be way out and plain wrong. We'll see.
I say this because it's apparent how psychologists and psychiatrists seem to be able to categorize and pathologize people with seeming accuracy - and yet miss the mark completely. This could be because so many of them are arrogant jerks with fat useless textbooks.
You also seem to forget that narcissists are incapable of showing the self-discipline and active service that this woman has done, over the years. You and some others here are decidely one-sided and too harsh IMO.