It seems your antagonist looks at the world from an "everyone is getting their needs met but me" point of view. Expects others to meet their needs. Competitive. Constantly looking around to see if some advantage is taken of them. Dependent. Prone to boredom, anger and depression.

And some people view a relationship as an opportunity to share and promote spiritual growth. Not competitive. And willing to take care of their selves. Not as prone to boredom or depression, self-sufficient and therefore able to enjoy a relationship.

I see both sides in both males and females. In fact in your example the real difference was between females, your wife and the other lady.

Nice story, well told.

Arf