No help here.
I know almost nothing about wines except "red" and "white," and my wife doesn't tolerate red wine. We order Reisling with steak at restaurants. Maybe somebody rolls their eyes when we aren't looking, but we like it.
If you go to a store like Bevmo or anyplace that specializes in wine, they're pretty good with advice. I've done that a number of times.
Other tricks include checking out similar meals in fancy restaurants with online menus and seeing what wines the menu recommends.