1. The appearance of having it all together doesn't mean they have it all together. Your comments on weak men demonstrate this fallacy. Many of the so called weak men give the appearance of having it all together. Cops, athletes, and other alphas are common abusers. They may be weak but they do not appear weak on the surface. I assume we agree that abusers are fundamentally weak.

2. Since we are apes the pack/herd comparisons are not really valid and any similarities are only equally interesting. If I were picking I would choose the pack as a better fit since apes are better known for alpha types and herds are better known for Judas goats and the ever popular "herd mentality".

3. Your comments on the female preferences of weak men says more about your personal preference in women than it does about the reality of relationships. I have never noticed that fashion models pout as part of their off camera personality. They certainly have hips and they almost never have big tits. They are no doubt flawed in many ways but frail, quiet, and meek doesn't ring true to me

Weak men are probably drawn to weak women regardless of their body type. My personal impression of the weak man female preference based on my observations are almost 180 from yours and are probably equally prejudiced, but I certainly don't associate weak men with fashion model types as any sort of rule of thumb.