re: You always talk with your opponents.
It's important to understand your opponents, their ideology, their cultures and their societies. You want to understand their leader's personalities, motivations, goals and ideals.
And once you understand that their unwavering purpose is your enslavement or the extinction of your society, where do you go from there? Have we learned nothing from history? That coexistence is, once in a while, just not an option?
There is no "mutually agreeable solution" with the Taliban and al Qaeda. Pakistan is learning this the hard way as many others have done so throughout history.
Tell me, what would have been a "mutually agreeable solution" with Hitler's Third Reich?