A friend who has a PHd. in rhetoric (of all things!)... once said that the answer to everything is: It depends.
That glib statement drove me crazy for years...I was bound and determined to find her wrong...more for my peace of mind than anything. I can not. She is right.

We must decide on an individual basis when and how to allow the ground clutter/external noise go.

We are being bred to be perfect, subliminally. We all have bought into this fallacy. Being hyper critical is a by product. Self forgivness is a foreign idealogical commodity very few of us partake in.

I am referring to the self forgiveness of being pure HUMAN.
We need to stop living up to someone elses standard of living [moral code] ..and individually hold ourselves to a higher, highly individualized, accountable moral ground....we must decide what that is.

My mantra has been..."When I woke up this morning...did I intend to botch up?...It is about the power of intention. Because everyone's realities are unique due to their specific experiences...all our outcomes are different and we are trying to pigeon hole these outcomes under the umbrella of doing what is right...doing what is expected....when what is absolutely right for me, is not necessarily right for you.

Oh, we SAY we are doing what is right for ourselves..BUT...this is pure lipservice. Because if it were an intrinsic idea...we would not be so mean and critical. Judgement on all levels would begin to diminish...because we simply *know* that we are all trying to do the right thing. The gift is to understand that doing the right thing is for each one of us to decide....and to try to accomplish.

Survival is subjective....and individual....NO one can dictate that, but ourselves...in other words...

IT JUST DEPENDS.