Another perspective emerges...
Hmmm.
Methinks I perceive a thinly veiled double-standard lurking here when you wrote "...like men can't control themselves."
Yes, a disinclined woman can always kick a guy in the groin if he's too persistant, but what is a man to do - not when he's been kicked in the balls - but when a woman is too persistent, and he's not interested?
Since kicking the lady in her private parts seems out of the question, what would you have our beleagured charmer do?
Turn on a football game?
:o)
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