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Flame » in reply to Thank you Mary Anne.

You're welcome, Tech.
Mary Anne — (archived)

Oh, I know you care. I also know, from observation and experience, that you don't know how to behave in the context of how the other person feels.

You tell everyone that emotion is a primitive response even when emotion is appropriate, unless you have been smacked in a tender (for you) place, and then you lash out. Then emotion is OK. We've seen it happen.

I spend a lot of time empathizing with people IRL, because it's the only way to understand their questions and their needs. It's my job, my family role, and my hobby. I expect the same kind of treatment, and I have two choices when I don't get it. I'm tired of smacking people in the face with a wet dishtowel, because (as you point out, in your way) becoming reactive only makes me behave like the individual who has offended me. So the other option, ignoring the person, becomes the default.

It's the way I am.

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