...I'm beginning to think that stands for something other than Success Machine.

If the first words out of your mouth to a woman are:

"I flunked out of a university, I've been fired and I ride the bus....and day by day I'm getting balder and balder."

Then you really need to clean up your conversational skills.

Likewise, if you think all women are focused on are guys with degrees hanging around their necks - think again.

A woman wants to see "direction" she PRIMARILY wants to know your personality.

Here is the breakdown:

Personality:75%
Direction: 15%
Sense of humor: 5%
Car: 2-1/2%
Hair and body:2-1/2%

This comes straight from the Baxter Stephenson Bureau of Statistics. (BSBS)

Mary Anne's advice is some of the best.

Go to places where you meet like-minded folks. Space museums, Planetariums, etc. And go for it! If an attractive unaccompanied woman glances your way, be loose and comment about something that's there.

"Oh these stars are beautiful, don't you think?" or something.

You'll know real quickly if she doesn't want to be bothered.

"P-ss off loser!" - that's bad.
"Yes they are aren't they!" - that's good.

Talk awhile about things at the museum, or wherever you are. All are inconsequential, but you do get to hear her voice, and one can pretty quickly ascertain a level of intelligence, maturity, etc.

You may find that beauty in a woman is not all that matters. I have known a number of beautiful women - some are nice - others are first class riches, whose charm is literally skin deep.

If you schedule a date - make it one where you meet somewhere, like a library or something. This way you don't need to bring a car and you can get to know her without any formal superficialities.

Be real. Be yourself. Talk about what you like. Talk about Starship Generations or whatever you are interested in.

Ask.

Ask alot!

I have always found people are only too happy to tell you their life story once the initial barriers are down. You can learn a lot about who you are with - and about yourself.

Feeling sorry for yourself is the surest way to propagate a negative situation. If anything...I always remind myself that I am the only one responsible for my life and never project blame on "fate" - or on others.

If something bad happens to me - I look closely within to see what lessons I can learn from it - and what ones I NEEDED to learn from it.

There is no such thing as bad or good - only relative interpretations of events exist.

Go rent "Mr. Destiny" with Michael Caine and Belushi.

Watch it at least three times.

That is my 10 cents worth,

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