Re: I only had time to check your first link
I have no doubt that surveys taken in Berlin during WWII would have revealed a few negative opinions of the Allied bombing attacks, as would surveys in Japan after the Hiroshima bombing. I don't recall as how that had one damn thing to do with how we fought the war.
We are doing a lot more to minimize collateral damage than anyone has a right to expect.
The hard truth is that a lot of the people writing these stories, or the people giving the writers their information, or both, want the United States to lose this war. This has to be kept in mind when reading them.