Ah, you mean a patriot is a collectivist.
The world would be a better place if more rightwingers took the time to learn the meaning of the words they throw about with such gay abandon.
You nicely defined a "collectivist", Tech, and it's uncharacteristically insightful of you to note that patriotism is a necessary component of collectivism:
A collectivist is someone who takes a hands-on interest in the well-being of their nation. A person who wants their nation to prosper and works in some manner to that end.
Any society which features patriotism is by definition a collective, because of that concern that you cite for the general welfare. It's true. Look it up some time.
If only all your confusion was so easy to clear up.