For instance...
IF civil rights workers had been treated civily, and NOT had dogs sent to attack them and NOT been killed brutally, do you think the civil rights movement would have succeeded as rapidly as it did?
It was the bigots expressing their mindless hatred that speeded up the process- it was social judo- use your foe's stupidity against them- let them defeat themselves- and the bigots eagerly fell for it...
I doubt many would argue that the palestinians were treated fairly,I doubt many would argue the israeli victims of sucide bombings deserved their fate either...
Palestinians would win greatly by adopting nonviolence- it has usually worked for the underdog in the modern era.