Cultural constraints
On one side of the argument, yes.
On the other side, religion.
"To honor and obey" is like "One nation under God'.
It has religious overtones.
God made man and woman. Man and woman made marriage.
And thence forth sprang all the problems.
I think "love and marriage" are well nigh impossible and occasionally succed only in a state of grace (about 5%).
I want to re-write Cinderella as that one fairy tale has had young women wishing and hoping for some young handsome prince to appear and sweep them off them off their feet, only to dump them at the next fancy princess in a pair of shiney new red shoes.
Pumpkin or no pumpkin.
Bah humbug.