Okay, missed the point.
I understand Roosevelt had family in the military. I also understand that many Presidents had military experience. The point was that no President goes to war without knowing that a LOT of people's kids are going into harm's way by his orders.
The idea that a President cannot suffer the losses of the war, or has no credibility as Commander in Chief unless it's his own kids involved, is insulting at best, and assuming a President cannot understand the consequences of his actions unless he is personally involved with his family is perceptual thinking at its worst.
The "chickenhawk" thesis doesn't hold water, Mary Anne, except for people incapable of abstraction. You can do better.