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SDG — 1/31/2006 9:34:06 PM (archived)

"Kids do best with two parents".
This is an old fashioned idea. Half of all marriages end in divorce, so most kids grow up from "broken" homes. To some degree, if the kids are adaptable, having second homes and a second set of "parents" actually gives them an advantage on life. They learn to be "fair and balanced"....that is IF their respective sets of parents are fair and balanced.

That's a pretty damn big IF. Seriously, how many kids do you know that have 2 sets of fair and balanced parents?

Kids need consistency and a safe harbor to call home. Jumping from household to household only causes them to feel lost. Its hardly an advantage. Throw in half-siblings that spend all their time at one of the households and you have a recipe for a lot of pain and resentment.

Except in cases of abuse divorce is never good for kids. Regardless of how divorcees like to spin it, the kids suffer. Sometimes its necessary, but if the parents would get past the rose-colored spin, they could help their child a lot by recognizing the kids are bearing the brunt of the consequences and none of the cause. Rose colored spin only causes the kids more pain.

Better to face reality head-on with the knowledge that kids are recieving the fallout from society's radiation cloud of "no-fault" divorce.

Steve G.

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Want Grandma? Get an appointment. - Tom Brosz - 1/29/2006 10:57:31 PM
- Sounds like just another Baby Boomer singing the song... - Larry J - 1/30/2006 2:05:49 PM
- Why sad? (n/t) - R.L. - 1/29/2006 11:35:42 PM
  - Loss is always sad. - Mary Anne - 1/30/2006 1:00:44 AM
    - Thanks, Mary Anne. - Tom Brosz - 1/30/2006 5:19:41 PM
    - The social dynamics are changing.... - R.L. - 1/30/2006 1:34:01 AM
      - "Would Tom find it as sad if it was a Grandfather?" Yes. - Tom Brosz - 1/30/2006 5:03:47 PM
      - Don't have kids, do you? :-) - Tony - 1/30/2006 2:09:33 AM
      - ...but children are not. - Mary Anne - 1/30/2006 1:58:30 AM
        
        Again.... - R.L. - 1/30/2006 4:50:17 AM
        
        Child care = wasted life: interesting concept - Mary Anne - 1/30/2006 2:17:13 PM
        
        No, that is not what I said - R.L. - 1/30/2006 3:32:53 PM
        
        OK... - Mary Anne - 1/30/2006 5:14:50 PM
        
        What do you want to bet... - Larry J - 1/30/2006 7:46:06 PM
        
        I have to agree 100%with MA on this. - Lee - 1/30/2006 3:52:49 AM
        
        Of course you do, but then- you ARE a neanderthal - R.L. - 1/30/2006 4:53:08 AM
        
        Wisdom from a "Neanderthal". - Lee - 1/31/2006 2:42:57 AM
        
        Thank you. - Mary Anne - 1/30/2006 2:19:08 PM
        
        Cut R.L. some slack. - Tom Brosz - 1/30/2006 5:23:05 PM
        
        I read that article a couple of months ago.... - Lindy - 1/30/2006 5:39:37 PM
        
        Even more disturbing.... - dtb - 1/30/2006 6:45:03 PM
        
        "Becoming pregnant in an old fashioned way....." - Lindy - 1/30/2006 8:08:50 PM
        
        these were MARRIED women - dtb - 1/30/2006 10:57:00 PM
        
        re: these were MARRIED women - Lindy - 1/31/2006 12:52:09 AM
        
        Kids do best with two parents. - Tom Brosz - 1/30/2006 8:42:09 PM
        
        Single moms having babies after 40.... - Lindy - 2/1/2006 10:10:30 PM
        
        You're not doing much to convince me. - Tom Brosz - 2/2/2006 1:13:38 AM
        
        re: You're not doing much to convince me. - Lindy - 2/2/2006 5:03:07 AM
        
        "It's her right!" Sorry. Still all about what she wants, not the kids. (n/t) - Tom Brosz - 2/2/2006 5:12:23 AM
        
        You've got a problem with women being women? - Lindy - 2/2/2006 2:48:58 PM
        
        re: Kids do best with two parents. - Lindy - 1/31/2006 1:03:36 AM
        
        re: Kids do best with two parents. - Tom Brosz - 2/1/2006 4:45:39 AM
        
        Kids - Lindy - 2/1/2006 5:11:20 AM
        
        re: Kids do best with two parents. - SDG - 1/31/2006 9:34:06 PM
        
        re: Kids do best with two parents. - Lindy - 1/31/2006 10:39:50 PM
        
        Was _MARRIED_ women -- just too busy for sex (n/t) - dtb - 1/30/2006 10:57:45 PM
        
        LOL - R.L. - 1/30/2006 3:35:39 PM
        
        A prime example of what happens when kids aren't given enough love. - Lee - 1/30/2006 6:33:21 AM

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