Be offended all you want.
You're talking about making official lists. "Allowing" homosexual citizens to "prove" their worthiness in some official manner to "enable" them to claim the same civil rights as the heterosexual majority.
That's where the line is. You want to take your feelings and codify them.
I meet plenty of people in the course of a month whose behavior raises my hackles. I work with the public, and the public often has no manners. But unless we cross the line into behavior such as harassment, recklessness, theft or violence, in which real harm (not subjective disgust) can happen to another, I'm not kicking them out of the public institution in which I work. Isolation doesn't teach people anything, on either side of the table.