It's the extremists who're doing the bombing
I do believe we need to pay attention to what the extremists are saying because they're the ones who're committing the terrorist acts around the world. There are about a billion Muslims on Earth and only a tiny percentage of them are doing these things, but a tiny percentage of a billion people can still be a significant number.
I fully agree that the American way isn't the only way but you won't get similar concessions from the Islamic extremists out there. They see their way as the only way, and everyone else is merely an infidel who can be killed at will.
Were I a Muslim, I'd be more pissed at those extremists who've committing those acts in the name of my religion than at people who're getting upset at Moslems.