Let me tell you this.
For one, you need to look up the term "sex object". If, when you view your wife as a "sex object", your not including the emotions you feel for her, the appreciation you have for her companionship and her intellect.
If you are not happy about your sex life, talk to her about it.FYI, My sex life is just fine. Also I've never cheated on my wife. And BTW, We've been married for 22 years so give me some credit.
I responded honestly to this post because I thought Jody had unrealistic expectations when it came to men. In my opinion, both you and Jody are a bit naive when it comes to this subject. You are either in denial of your own sexuality, lying about you feelings to make yourself look good, or your genuinely a saint. I know your not lying because your one of the nicest individuals on this board. I'm not sure about sainthood though....