I take it you haven't gone through much hardship
or had to use your wits to struggle out of a bad situation. If you had, then you would know what I'm talking about. The greatest classics of literature deal with tragedy and the strength and wisdom gained from going through it. Through pain and suffering we grow as individuals. It's how we earn our maturity. Children have things handed to them, but adults work and earn their way. As a poem I once wrote says...
Wisdom is a cup
filled with tears
It grows in volume
through the years